We talk a lot about how important vetting a man is and how you should always have your guard up to some degree. But I'm done. At this point what I see for my future is myself. Happy, stress free, well rested, secure, confident and single.

I don't believe I can be all of those things without being single. There's a certain level of anxiousness that comes with letting a man into your life because you can never fully trust them. Which of course is why we stress constant vetting, even after years of being together.

No matter how HV a man seems, how do you know he'll be the same when you're 50 and not lusting over his younger co worker? Or if you gain some weight? Or if you get sick? Depressed?

It's just not worth the effort to me. I am not a detective. I am not a psychologist. I am not a baby sitter.. I don't want to have to worry about and/or monitor a grown adults online activity. I don't want to worry about who someone works with or why they're suddenly in a certain distant mood today. I don't want to worry about if someone is being honest with me or only telling me part of the story. I don't want to worry about if someone's 'into me' or just lonely/horny. I don't want to worry about being used until someone else comes along. I don't want to worry about wasting years of my life and my time, energy and emotions on the wrong person. Men just aren't worth it to me. Vetting is too much effort and takes up too much of my time and thoughts.

Honestly it feels quite strange to have this level of acceptance with singleness. Like with not only preferring to be single but making sure it stays that way. My life with not have any romantic involvement whatsoever with a man. It's almost controversial to admit because of how much relationships and casual sex are pushed on women today. I know if I went around telling everyone about it I'd be harassed and threatened with becoming a bitter old hag/cat lady one day, so I'll just share it here with you lovely ladies.

And lol at those bitter old hag/cat lady threats 🤣

Like one day will I be old? Yes. Happens to everyone, including men (gasp)

Cat lady? Hopefully! Every cat I've ever had has been a stray that chose me and I hope that continues to happen throughout my life. The one I have now I found in the dead of winter and in rough shape. Took a few months and meds to get him healthy but now he curls up by my feet every night and his purrs help me fall asleep. I sleep so much better now than I have in any relationship I've ever been in.

Hag? I'm not sure what that means exactly.. If it means old then yes, I will be old one day. I'm okay with aging. I'm human afterall, not a porcelain doll or a bunch of pixels on a screen.

And bitter? Not sure where any bitterness would come from really since I won't be having any relationships with men. No one using me or abusing me sounds quite peaceful.