I'm struggling with imaginary scenarios where everything is alright because once I start, my mind involuntarily hits me with 'what's the point? None of this is real, nor will it ever be' and I can't escape to my mind anymore. Just the fact that this is all I ever will have forever until I die, and that I won't get good things, the things I want, like love and relationships.
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At least your mind brings back you to reality, I think it's a healthy reaction.
I'm also a maladaptive daydreamer, but I do it obsessively and in an 'out of control' way, sometimes I can hardly snap myself out of it even if i want to. I have days where I'm dissociating every other five minutes, and spend hours in the world I created. This absolutely impacts my ability to focus, study or be productive at work, it was a big factor in me getting fired from my one of my jobs (I was very unproductive because of my depression and mdd). So it's a great cope... until it becomes addictive and uncontrollable and takes everything away from you. So in a way it's healthy that your mind snaps you out of it, but I understand that it can feel like shit that even this last resort is taken away from you. It's a great question which scenario is better for us, femcels: staying in the gruesom reality of our insignificant lives, or traveling to dreamland but slowly losing or own lives because of it. Both seems pretty tragic :(
Maybe you're right, but if I can't have daydreaming, what else do I have? But it seems either way, we're screwed, it's either hardcore dissociation to the point where you can't function, or depression from the inescapable reality.
Yeah, I feel you, we really don't have anything else besides daydreaming... Maybe you could try life simulator games like The Sims or Second Life or a very involving MMORPG like WoW? In the past I played a lot with Sims 4 and I found it was a pretty good cope, I was staying in the present more than I was when I daydreamed, but still took a big part of the pain away. And since its a game and a character and you arent thinking about yourself, maybe your brain won't try to snap you out of it?
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I know of an online support group/discord that does zoom meetings for MDD if you want.
But wouldn't that be for people who struggle to snap out of it, as opposed to not being able to daydream at all?
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I'd be interested to join as I'm trying to control my MDD more
Download the App meetup and type in maladaptive daydreaming and there's an online support group that meets on zoom quite often.
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