this is why I learned the most important lesson from FDS (Female Dating Strategy): if he isn't passionate about you, it's not worth it. and you will know when he is not passionate about you. and anytime anything feels off that's him fucking up his manipulation and not him being awkward.

also the way to avoid being a forever girlfriend, or a nagging wife, or a pump and dump, is to make the guy spend time, money and effort on you. that is the only way.

bc a man who only wants you for benefits, for shortterm or longterm, he will try to do it as cheaply as possible and with getting sex as soon as possible.

that's why withholding sex works. a guy who only wants you for a pump and dump or to use you for frequent sex (or assisted masturbation with your vagina) won't wait 3 months for you to put out.

if a guy tries to date multiple women he will have to be rich in order to be able to afford dinner dates with all of them.

also money is not a light issue, you have to work a fuck ton for it, with little free time, often get paid in peanuts, and on top of it you probably hate the job and coworkers too.

so after all that struggle you likely only spend your money on things you really really want. and that is how dinner dates prove how much that guy actually wants you regardless if he is rich or not.

it's a sign of respect to spend money on someone.

on the other hand money is a way to be lazy. dinner dates are great and I think they should be the base line when it comes to dating. but anyone can do that. it's not the same as seeing something at the plaza and buying that for someone bc you know they would love it. bc for that you actually need to know the person.

but honestly I still prefer dinner dates bc I think that's such a huge sign of respect nowadays, unfortunately.

another thing: if the guy is really struggling financially that will put a huge strain on your relationship. Men constantly prove over and over again that they don't deserve the support women provide for the bc they use these women as "starter wives" and move on to attractive women once they get steady.

also men feel you are pathetic if you find him attractive while he is financially struggling bc they know that money means respect and stability and you choosing that is a wrong move.

as much as men try to ridicule it, it is the ultimate truth for the reason men try to ridicule it:

if men or a man agrees with you, you probably said something bullshit that benefits only him.

and from that you can conclude that: anytime you say something that offends men or a man, you are doing the right thing.

expecting dinner dates is a way to lay a boundary. you expect him to invest in you and therefore you won't let him abandon you without losing money. if you withhold sex he just can't pump and dump you or he can't keep you for the sex only.

really the opposite of everything men want you to do and you will thank yourself.